A person is creative when he employs his imagination to invent new things, while captivity is when one is enslaved to a thing. The first is a victor, the other a victim. You either rule your libido or be ruled by it. You seem to have no choice. Either you are creative or a captive; it must either be one or the other. Your libido can do both but one at a time.
Back in my High School days, I observed something about the ladies that were with us. They seemed to be having lower grades as we moved to higher classes. Years before, when they used to call us greenhorns, they were the best. Boys then couldn¡¯t compete with them. By the time we were in our third year most of the supposed bright girls¡¯ grades were in mess. Then I realized something. It wasn't all the girls, it was those girls who had suddenly become promiscuous. It is only now I realized what happened to them. They hit puberty, realised how wonderful sex was, directed all their energy at it and forsook their creativity (intellectuality). They were captives to sex.
You can choose to master your libido (power) and profit by it or be enslaved by your own powers. You can choose to be free and responsible or live under the captivity of fashion and wear whatever the society (New York Fashion Home) decides. You can choose to employ your creative energy in more productive ways than exuding it in nudity. Honey, there is only one way to control that furnace of sex drive within you. It must be directed at creativity, else you will forever be a slave to that sexual furnace.
You can be a slave to your emotions, a slave to your dressing, a slave to your peers, to your man, to the society etc. The woman has become a slave to what the society wants. If you refuse to master your libido and direct it for creative profiting, you will forever remain a victim of what others want. You will remain forever abused. The choice is yours. Honey! You can live in creativity or captivity.
Creating appetite in a man by amorous looks and flirting actions gives the man a devouring sense. The reason why most men always take the icing in women and leave the cake. He devours the sexy part and dumps her. You better be creative or you will soon be dumped
Get this, men will not respect you because you are sexy, of course they would like to sleep with you. But you wouldn¡¯t earn their honour and respect. They will only respect you when you are smart. Men fear and respect smart ladies and would even marry a lady for her brain rather than marry a stupid sexy one.
If at all a man married a stupid sexy lady, he did that only because he needs a sex-slave. I don¡¯t know what you want, to be a sex-slave or a wife, you have a choice in this matter. To an extent, women determined how men treat them.
Be creative or die. You are too loaded to be imprisoned to some freaky desires, you are loaded with creative power, you have a womb that can't be barren. You don't have to see a man before that womb produces. Millions of seeds swim across your womb every second. That womb is your brain; the seed are your thoughts. When your brain traps down a seed and incubates upon it, it become an idea, which is called your brainchild. Your brain is the womb or factory of imagination, it becomes barren when you refuse to think upon the seed that gains entrance into it. But if you do, you give birth to a brainchild and for every child your brain produces you are paid for. Your pay is in proportion to the seeds you incubate since the brain needs a seed (dream seed) to produce a brainchild. And each child will have a resemblance to the father-the dream seed.
From where do you get dream seeds? Of course your thoughts, which are products of what you see, read and hear. Funny enough, most of us read junks so our seeds become junk seeds. Baby, what kind of books do you read? What kind of place do you go to? What kind of friends do you listen to? All these and more fathered your dream seeds. Know this; if you have a good dream-seed you will birth a good brainchild. It is the seed that determines the child, you can¡¯t beat the law of nature.
Get this, your creativity is your brain-child, captivity is when your brain stops to think, only to think about sex, the man you have been with, what they do to you, how good or bad they were and so on.
Sex is so powerful that if what you feed your brain with is sex, you can't help it but think about sex. Since your dream-seed are all about sex, you will keep thinking about sex, when you are alone, in the classroom, along the street etc. In fact, you dream it until your become creative in it. When you want to talk, you talk about sex, because your thoughts are that of sex. That's why you can't stop talking to your friends about guys, what they look like, what they say, what they do etc.
Understand this, if your thoughts (dream-seed) presently are all about sex, you are wasting your brain (womb) on irrelevant stuffs that will increase your sex drive. When you think about sex, your brain power to intellectually think about other things at that moment stops. This is why you read more than every other person, yet, you don't understand like every other person.
What do I do NOW! Bingo! Get other seeds into your mind. Read motivational and creative books not books on romance. Watch discovery channels not XX rated movies; they would pollute your mind. Get friends who would not spend ages talking about guys and what sex feels like. Get friends who would talk about your future as a mother, your carrier etc. Stop watching or listening to musicals that encourage some crazy abuses they call sex. Listen to music that will lighten your spirit, make you happy and get you something to think about all day. Get creative or die captive to your libido (sex drive).
Ancient African Women¡¯s Sublimation
As young singles we have strong erotic desires but we must not blindly give in to them just because we have them. Your desires are always seeking for sexual expression (because you were programmed so) instead of seeking expression in productive as well as creative works.
To sublimate is to modify the natural expression of an instinctual impulse, (especially a sexual one) in a socially acceptable manner. It is to suppress the urges, but not with masturbation or porno as the society teaches. It is to discover and develop interesting activities that provide enough personal satisfaction so as to allow sexual energy to be profitably maximized.
Trying to sublimate with masturbation or porno is like extinguishing a furnace with fuel. We must not forget that in sublimation we recognize our drive(s) and constructively deal with it. Our sexual drive (libido) is filled with creative ability which we must maximize.
The drive will always come. When it comes and seems stronger than I can bear, what must I do? Simple! Redirect it to work. You write poems (to God, your father, nature, Africa etc), just be creative. Fill your time, make sure your time is not given to idle thinking.
Ladies have so many creative things to sublime their strong sex drive with. You can start plaiting, weaving, threading, reading (not romance literature), playing games etc.
Love music or movies and love literature will fuel your drive. If you try romance literatures or love movies when you have those desires, alone, I bet you, your desire will be so strong that you will end up masturbating.
Come on honey, you can do this, your mothers did it in the past. They were virgins until marriage and after marriage they stuck to one husband even when their husbands had some other wives and hardly came to their beds. Refused to flow along with Western trend that are filled with stories of divorces and heartbreaks.
As girls, your ancient mothers sublimated with girls activities like, learning to cook (all kinds of foods), weaving, threading, doing house chores, maybe gossiping too. And as married women they sublimated with the house chores and taking care of children. They made it, you can too.